Aug

03

Thoughts, Vacation Stuff

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Let’s start where I should: The thanks

Thanks go out to so many people that it’s literally impossible to remember everyone, and if I don’t remember you, just mail me and I’ll get that corrected right away. Here they are, in no pecking order (none is more thanked than the other ;))
Jodi and Ewi
You two gave me a rest from mom’s place, you opened up your home to me, took me out and made what could have been a lousy trip a very beautiful one. Thank you, both of you. I greatly appreciate your hospitality and kindness, both of you just rock!

Larry and Danette
You guys opened up your already packed home to not only me, but dad and Dawn, after having only been in it for 2 weeks.I appreciate it, thank you so very very much!

Dad
The trip wouldn’t have been the same without you. Thank you so much for making it possible. You (as always) rock!

Grandma
You opened up your house to us, and for that I thank you. You’ve been there for our family countless times and ways, most unthanked for, and even though you may never see this, I wanted to say thanks and I appreciate that!

Now for the memories and thoughts about the whole thing
The vacation , in general taught me that vacationing with family can be good, and it can be bad. It’s all in how the family is setup. Mom’s side of the family? No way would I EVER vacation with them, or rely on them, as they’re 1100% unreliable (sans grandma who appears to be too reliable). I don’t know WHERE they get it from, but that kind of attitude and reliability really is not acceptable.
I was constantly up between 8 and 9 am the whole trip, which, for me is unusual. Of course, it can be fixed, and will need to be
Vacation doesn’t mean “no work”, not to me. It means “no work that you’re guilted or forced into”, and “no work that you normally do”. The only time that I didn’t feel pressured into work (didn’t do shit @ Jodis or grandmas, but I did (try to) help clean up a bit ;)) was at Larry’s. I went into that willingly, and when I mentioned that I had back problems and needed to slow down, they understood. I appreciate the opportunity to work there with them, next to my dad, whom I admire quite a bit.
Vacations don’t have to be “at a lake” or at a fancy resort or somewhere like that. They can be at a friend or relative’s house and do things exactly as well as the other.
Vacations DO necessarily involve sunburn (@ least vacations in the summer;)) It just wouldn’t be a vacation without it.
Vacations are meant to relax, of which I did when @ Jodi’s, grandma’s and Larry’s. All of you I appreciate and owe a very big “thank you” to!
It felt (really) good to actually see something go up, to be a part of something that isn’t stuck in the fiber and silicon of that which we call the internet. Not that I’d do it for a living, mind, but it felt damn good to be able to do that. Pictures will be taken my next visit too

The best times?
As much as I’d like to pinpoint one, I can’t. I think the best times for me though were waking up on the couch @ Jodi’s (my choice of sleeping places ;)) , going out on the deck and just constantly being amazed by their “backyard”. There aren’t too many critters you CAN’T find walking, crawling, flying or hopping around there. From raccoon to finch to bluejay to squirrel, it’s pretty much covered.
I learned a lot about myself this whole trip, kind of just amazed that I absolutely fell for the kitties, just reminding me more and more that I NEED kitties (not cats, but kittens), in fact that will be my next project I think, a baby kitten.

The worst time
I hate to see it but seeing Grandpa slowly deteriorating. That has to be the worst possible time I’ve ever seen, far worse than the arguments with mom, or being forced to walk (or wait 2 hours) by Dawn. Those were close, but not comparative to seeing grandpa like that. I regret not being able to spend the time I want to with him, but distance just doesnt permit that.

The plans:
Quite simply put, none!
I do intend to go back sometime in December(ish) for a bit. Other than that, none at all. I want to try to avoid Dawn if at al possible while I’m there, but I don’t think it’ll work. Would be nice, but like I said, probably not.

Now, for the *censored*es. Here, I’m sure I’ll piss a few people off, but *censored* ‘em. The way these people acted, most don’t deserve the air they are breathing, though, some unseen force decides to keep giving it to them:

Dawn
Surprised? You shouldn’t be!
You really need to learn priorities woman. I mean , clam digging or visiting your brother? Which is more important? Of course, you’re so self centered you don’t see it if it doesn’t affect you, Dawn directly, so let me spell it the *censored* out for you:
Places have structured times to do things
Those times can not be changed
In Rehabilitation places, you’re LUCKY to get in after the bell is rung and visiting begins. Why? Structure. You, of all people, should know this.
Had we NOT been able to see Robert because of your lack of priorities and general *censored* up, I would certainly not be happy with you (oh wait, I’m not now, am I?).
You accuse me of acting childish, yet, you refuse to take responsibility. You refuse to budge a fucking inch, fucking about “Oh, it’ll put me back hours in line”, which we all know it won’t. fucking priorities, right? When someone says 1 time, that doesn’t MEAN a half a god damn hour later , or even an HOUR, ESPECIALLY if they have to keep them waiting for that half hour or hour and they have 2 kids. Common sense, right? Of course, as I said, you sure the *censored* don’t understand common sense like that, right? Ignorant!

Mom
You’ll never read this and it’s best you don’t. Your attitude is quite disgusting, you need to quit forcing your cheap assed fucking morals on everyone else. You are THE biggest fucking hypocrite in the world, and the biggest liar to boot. You take advantage of your own family to the point where they never (and I mean never) come around. Geeeeee, wonder where the Queen B (Dawn) gets it from. fucking *censored*!
While you’re at it, lose about 150 pounds. Admittedly, I’m a bit overweight myself, but I’m not a god damn cow that eats everything. You just scare the *censored* out of most people you meet, and that’s NOT good.
Oh, and Robert? Don’t plan on seeing HIM much either, except to *censored* you over again. That’s certainly what will be happening. Do you really think he is coming back? I’ve got a bridge in the middle of the Sahara I’ll sell ya, if you do. The chances of that getting water are about as good as the chances of him coming back.
You drove 3 children away, it’s about time you fucking realized it. The world is NOT wrong (and no, it’s NOT just the people you mentioned, it’s EVERYONE who’s interacted for any steady period of time with you two), it’s YOU that’s wrong. Fix what’s wrong, quit trying to hide it. Oh wait, you can’t scare anyone else off, you’ve already done all that.
Vacation does NOT mean “volunteered work”. That’s the stupidest fucking thing I’ve ever heard of. That pretty much solidified the fact that I will not ever (ever) be staying at your place again, and if I DO decide to see you it will NEVER be at your place. I don’t work for free, or get guilt tripped into doin so. Since you decided to do that, you can kiss my ass.
Your “religion” crap is absolutely ridiculous. You act like it’s the end all and be all of life, when in reality it’s not. I’ve survived quite a few years without your lies being shoved down my throat.
You can NOT control how others talk, and your petty attempts to do so are just sickening. Not disgusting, sickening! If you can’t allow others to be themselves without attempting to inject your own stupid shit in their lives then go off somewhere else. Yet another reason I won’t be back to see you.

Me!
Yeah me. I should have a car by now, but thanks to the jackass crew, I don’t. Well, I’m going to push for that in the next few months, because I’ll be damned if I’m subject to the Queen *censored*’s schedule again. That’s 2 vacations (in a row mind you) that she’s fucked up for one reason or another because of her lack of care or lack of timing. Oh well. Kinda funny, I pay for (over) half the gas and she treats me like shit. *censored* you Dawn.