How low can you go?
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Loading ...My brother is 17, will be 18 in March, and, sadly, he’s nowhere near ready for "real life". I don’t blame this on him, rather the incompetent that raised him (ie: my mother). Harsh? Perhaps, but you need to understand that this woman is a thief, and so very much more. A few examples are in order here.
When she and dad got divorced (not saying it was good or bad, because that’s irrelevant, nor am I going to take sides), she moved us from Alaska to Washington. We’d been there for 5 years, and WA was no stranger, so no difference.
For the first few months we were there, we lived with my uncle who, god love him was even MORE abusive than my dad. Unfortunately, he was strict, abusive and that just didn’t sit well with me, or my sister. No examples necessary, because I don’t really care to live that part of my past, but if I say he was worse than my dad, believe me, he was bad, VERY bad.
Once we got out of there, my sister started doing crazy shit, as teenagers will do. She was like 13 at the time I think, and decided she was going to be out all night with boys, weed, party, that kind of stuff. Great, so now there’s even more reason for mom to be unhappy. Believe me, mom doesn’t and didn’t need any reason at all to be unhappy.
Couple months later, I follow my sister’s lead, not to the degree that she did, I merely stole smokes (because mom refused to buy them) . Get caught a couple of times and I pretty much learned my lesson.
This is the beginning of a downhill slide though.
Unfortunately, mom realized she couldn’t "care" for 3 kids on her own, so she shipped me to a foster place in Washington, and left my sister to rot in detention for a few months. When SHE got out, she was shipped to my grandmothers in the Seattle area.
That’s very much well and good, but the fact of the matter is that my mom was paid to support us, it’s called CHILD support for a reason, she made almost $600 on just the two of us alone every month. Not alot? You’re right it’s not, but she refused to get her ass a job to support herself.
So, 2 years go by, finally I turn 18, and child #1 loses the support protection. Another years, child #2 (my sister) loses the same said protection. ALL this time NEITHER child #1 (me) OR child #2 (my sister) gained nothing from this protection at all. These support funds were supposed to support US, yet what did they do? They supported HER fat ass and HER boyfriend’s drinking problems. We wanted something? Great, we were told to get a damn job. Talk about arrogant and completely self centered.
As if that was all. I know for a fact that during those 4 years, she was collecting welfare on ALL 3 children, hence robbing the state of Washington , and people TRULY in need (those that couldn’t get a job to save their lives, ie: handicapped or whatever). She COULD have got a job, but she refused to look , instead depending on OTHER people constantly for shit.
Now, let’s fast forward 5-10 years. Has she changed? No. Has she got a job YET , and held it for more than 90 days? No. Is she fit to be a mother? Sadly, no. She is quite the opposite, however. A few examples from "recent" history.
My brother, 17, is an addict. We all know it. Mom knows it, I know it, my sister knows it, everyone in the family (even my dad) knows it. He’s been through countless therapy sessions, countless lockups (in fact he was just released, IF he’s even released) for crap like mail fraud, theft, etc. A classic junky, he will do ANYTHING for a fix, ANYTHING.
Upon his latest release from rehab, I was informed that he was staying "sometimes" with mom and "sometimes" with other people (ie: friends, the SAME people who got him in trouble in the first place). So, great, she can’t even make him stay at home, encourages him to stay wherever he wants and get RIGHT back in the trouble that he was in before. And, he DID. The story of his latest arrest is suspicious at best to me.
His (and mom’s apparently) version:
"I was walking home late at night and got pulled over for no reason".
Well, being that I have personally walked the streets of Seattle, Lynnwood, Everett and many more on that side of the country at ALL hours of the morning, and have NEVER ONCE been "pulled over for no reason", I don’t believe that for two seconds. My last stay in Seattle ended up with me HOMELESS, sleeping by the PIER no less at all hours of the morning, and did I ever ONCE get questioned? No, not at all, so by no means to I believe this. You have to be DOING something wrong in order to be stopped, or pulled over, or acting suspicious. The only time (once) that I have EVER in my life been pulled over for walking was with a girlfriend of mine, and we left a mall, apparently we looked like some kids who’d stolen shit or something. I complied, she complied, we went on our way, no checks, no anything.
My mom and dad have been divorced for almost 18 years now, yet this woman has such a problem she is CONSTANTLY blaming HIM for screwing up her life. This is completely and totally outrageous. Almost 20 years down the road and SHE still hasn’t accepted responsibility for HER fault in whatever happened. Amazing, isn’t it?
Try to talk to mom about shit that she doesn’t like? Forget it, you get emotional instability. I’ve seen it more than once… Burst into tears, put on the poor me act, blah blah blah. Save it for someone else, cuz I’m just flat out not buying it.
52 years old (actually, probably 53 now), and the woman STILL cries to mommy to pay her rent. No joke, folks. The hillarious part? Because of welfare and housing, her rent is JUST over $100/month. Sooooo, she’s getting almost (if not) $300/month from my dad, she’s getting welfare, food stamps. Does anyone ELSE find it odd that the woman can’t pay $100 month in rent? That’s like total incompetence there to say the least.
Back to my brother:
For 15 years, everyone in my family said the same thing to my mom, that being she’s going to cause more problems by spoiling him. Did she listen? NO, in fact to this DAY she insists "I didn’t spoil him", yet, the proof is in the pudding . He won’t listen to her now, because she’s given him everything he wants his entire bloody life. Am I surprised at the fact that he’s turned out like a spoiled brat? Not really. The boy could use some real growing up lessons, and, sadly the only way he’s EVER going to get those is to be kicked onto the street and made to fend for himself.
I find it incredibly sad that the state of Washington has not only allowed this to continue for 17 years, but has encouraged it, by doing things such as demand an extra year’s payment for child support (stretching it until his 19th birthday), and demanding my father pay almost $35,000 ABOVE and BEYOND what he’s already paid, not to mention demanding that he provide proof of insurance, which he’s done countless times in the past. It’s not HIS fault my mother’s a friggin incompetent and can’t keep records straight, it’s her own. Yet, it’s always the innocent parties that get hurt and are forced to pay for the foolishness of the guilty.
Like I said, just how low can you go? Apparently, pretty damn low. Mom, if (doubtful) you ever read this, get OFF your lazy fat ass and get a job for yourself. Make yourself dependable. So what if some of the people in the family (certainly not you) can work from home and make it WORK. That does NOT mean you can, or that you should just abandon everything to try. You’ve tried 3x so far and failed. Get off your ass, get out there and get a real job. My god!
Anyways, enough babble, enjoy the rant/entry . Sorry it’s so long, but it had to be said.
Lata
